How do our past lives affect the relationships we have with others in our present lives? This is a question that arises repeatedly in sessions. To understand how our relationships are influenced by our past lives we need to understand how we are connected to others around us.
Soul Groups are the cluster of souls that we tend to travel through time with. There are Primary Soul Groups (our inner circle), and, also Secondary and Tertiary Soul groups. We reincarnate with our Primary Soul group in different roles. We are both teachers and students, assisting each other to learn vital lessons along our evolutionary pathway. At the soul level we understand that we have contracted to have particular experiences in a chosen lifetime, on the human, ego level this is sometimes more difficult to accept. As a Past Life Regression Therapist, I am of the view that we can carry over, on a cellular level, some of the emotional, physical or spiritual pain that we have experienced in our past lives. Unresolved issues from our past can rear their head when we encounter a familiar soul in our current lifetime.
A good example of this is when we find ourselves in conflict with a person whom we have just met without any obvious, justifiable reason. We just don’t take to them, or they make us afraid, or angry, or upset on some physiological level. We don’t understand why, we just know that something isn’t right. This kind of immediate conflict often develops into a nasty, loggerhead relationship without anyone being able to identify the cause.
A woman booked a session with me sometime ago. She was having an extremely difficult relationship with her new boss. From the moment the pair met there was conflict. My client explained that when he walked into the room for the very first time she felt the hairs on the back of her neck stand up and all she wanted to do was run. Things got worse and she developed extreme nausea every time she had to be physically close to him. She explained to me that there was a certain way that he looked at her that made her feel completely overwhelmed, like she couldn’t breathe.
We went into session looking to find the root cause of her strong distaste for this person whom she had ‘never’ met. She found herself on the streets of London in the late 1800’s. She was extremely poor and was a street beggar. She had not yet turned to prostitution, however she knew that it was only a matter of time because she believed that her choices were running out. She explained her feelings of deep emotional pain, her anger at being in that position, her loss of dignity and self respect as she sank deeper and deeper into poverty. She met a man (her current boss) on the street when she was on the brink of taking her own life. He offered her money for sex. She agreed, hoping that she would be able to eat. After the man had sex with her he refused to give her money. She chased after him, screaming and sobbing. He called her names and pushed her away. They found themselves beside the river, she was still begging him to pay her when he began to taunt her and laugh at her. Finally, he gave an almighty push, she lost her footing and plunged into the icy waters of the river. Weak and unable to swim, she drowned, watching his laughing face as she sank to the bottom of the river.
This scene made a lot of sense to my client, the feelings she felt for him could now be understood. The emotions she carried with her belonged in another lifetime and she was now able to let them go and deal with her boss on her own terms.
Funnily enough not long after her session, she was offered a much better job elsewhere and she moved on, she admitted that even though she had let go of the anxiety attached to her old boss she was pleased to walk away.
Our relationships can also be the opposite to this story. We can feel deep attraction to a complete stranger. We can even have flash backs to times when we have lived together in past lives. These are beautiful, enduring relationships that are deeply cherished by those who experience them.
Whatever the circumstances, Past Lives offer a unique insight into the relationships we have with others and provide us with a wonderful opportunity to gather healing and understanding in our current lives.